What not to do during the quarantine

Saturday, March 28th, 2020

Weyal Girls.

I’m not sure as to exactly how we got here – but here we are.

Feels to me like I’ve been in the twilight zone since March 12th when we were notified that school would be cancelled until April 7th (now April 7th feels like a dream).  Something I know about myself – and have been reminded of lately is this:  it takes me a looooooooong time to process things.  I get overwhelmed easily and stepping away and getting grounded is critical.

The thing is – I don’t know that I ever really landed since the 12th.  And here we are – March 28th.

While I want to share with you some things to look out for specifically to the recovery process as we navigate this social distancing and shelter in place (I promise to do that in the next blog post) – in this post, I’d like to just share what NOT to do to make your life easier during this time.

And if you think that I’ve been doing these things over the last couple of weeks – well, you’re right.

So in the spirit of authenticity – I share with you what hasn’t been my finest of moments:

#1 – Look at the COVID-19 news right before your head hits the pillow.

#2 – Look at the COVID-19 news the second you wake up.

#3 – Eat a whole bag of tortilla chips every. single. day. of quarantine.  Possibly while reading the news.

#4 – Feel resentment and anger toward your sweet children for being born.

#5 – Get really angry at your husband for scheduling your email upgrade for the busiest work day of the week.

#6 – Get even more mad when said email upgrade doesn’t work and all the emails you send land in the recipient’s junk folder.  Three days later, the problem still hasn’t been fixed.

#7 – Get super annoyed at all the people on Insta for saying this is the time to live your best life by cleaning closets, organizing drawers and starting a new exercise regimen.  (Do these people understand what is going on here?!)

#8 – Get sick.

#9 – Did I mention the bag of tortilla chips?

#10 – Weep over the number of Rival Nerf darts you find in your kitchen, lying on the floor, in your sheets, and under the couch.

Speaking of Nerf Rival – this morning, Jason and I decided to conduct a business meeting in the living room and while we were having our very important discussion – our children were in the middle of a Nerf war.  I think I got shot in the back of the head and all we could do was start laughing.

This. Is. Our. Life.

So whether you are hitting it out of the park and living your best life stuck in your house – organizing, cleaning and making the most of it – Or whether your life looks more similar to mine – feeling so very thankful to have this past week in the books and thanking sweet baby Jesus that we will never ever have to repeat that week again – I do want you to know:

We are going to make it.  It might not be glamorous or glitzy.  In fact, it might look a little ugly at times (see above) – but we will make it.

Would love for you to share how you are really surviving these last couple of weeks.  And to be clear – I read every single one of your replies and try my best to reply back.  So share below – I would so love to connect with you.

xo – Shelley

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15 thoughts on “What not to do during the quarantine


    March 29, 2020  |  12:12 pm

    Think you for being real… I think I thought I was ok. Like a pandemic has to be much worse than the two years of infidelity hell I have been through… Maybe it was just a distraction. We felt connected in a common enemy for once I think. But after a breakdown yesterday after my daughter’s birthday and another today just trying to do some bills organization, I’m not sure I’m ok. Just feeling like no matter how good I do trying to be ok and look to the positive, I still just always self destruct. My confession is wishing it was *just* a pandemic and not affair hell that is happening in our lives. Confession #2, I’m mad at God and no matter the blessings I have, I can’t see them.

    • Shelley Martinkus

      March 29, 2020  |  12:35 pm

      I hear you Jessica. It’s okay to be right where you at – it’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to wish it was just a pandemic and it’s also okay to be mad at God. You are not alone. xoxo – Shelley

  2. Jasmine Shumway

    March 29, 2020  |  12:18 pm

    Oh Shelley! Thank you once again for being so authentic and transparent I’ve been struggling with all of the above! Especially number 4 about resenting my sweet children…I love them so much, but I just want a minute…ahhhh!!!! Nathan is really being a Rock star working from home the best he can AND trying to help me keep my sanity, but I am so over this quarantine thing , much like everyone else. I’ve been trying to meditate the past few days which has helped immensely! Meditations only the Mount is what I’ve been using and although it’s only about 5 min, it’s still something. You and your family are in my prayers, take care!

    • Shelley Martinkus

      March 29, 2020  |  12:31 pm

      Thanks Jasmine – I so love hearing from you and knowing that I’m not alone in this. Thanks for saying – “me too”. Yay on the meditation – glad you mentioned that here. At this point – even the small tweaks can really make a huge difference. xoxoxoxo

  3. Michelle

    March 29, 2020  |  12:40 pm

    I work at our church here in Aurora in the accounting office so I still come in because we are exempt from the order. We have a food pantry, record the Sunday service and I still process offering, pay bills and support the ministry team. We are putting out bags for members and for children so those have to be assembled.

    I am catching up on some major filing projects that were put on the back burner during our major move to our new building.

    On my days off, I work on cleaning and caring for my puppies. I am over 60 so I try to get to the store for the supplies we need and we also try to do grocery runs for my in laws.

    My Hubby just started a new job with the City at the Jail and is considered “Essential” as well. We pray a lot and we are watching a lot of YouTube videos for woodworking.

    I bought 12 skeins of yarn just as this was unfolding and I am trying out different patterns to make an afghan. I may need to order a coordinating color of yarn to figure it out. My hubby is 6ft 2in so my afghans are huge to cover him from head to toe!

    We are older empty nesters so we have no little ones at home- Thank you Jesus! We are in transition while we wait for our new house to be built. So we are starting to purge and clear out the stuff we do not need. On the days I am home alone, I clean taking breaks to watch a Hallmark or Pureflix movie.

    • Shelley Martinkus

      March 29, 2020  |  01:11 pm

      Hi Michelle –
      Thank you so much for sharing here what life is like for you right now. I would say you are thriving a bit more than I am (haha!). This gives me hope – and for that – I am thankful. I feel inspired by the projects you are working on. I decided this weekend that I wanted to focus some time on figuring out our patio furniture for the summer. You’ve inspired me to dig into that a bit more! xoxo – Shelley

  4. Jen

    March 29, 2020  |  01:52 pm

    I’m one of those in an “essential” vocation so I am currently working from home. On weekdays, I pretend that I’m leaving the house every day. Normal schedule of getting up, dressed, makeup, hair – sometimes even SHOES – and breakfast. Make time for a journal entry just to express my truest thoughts somewhere – even if it’s one sentence – and a devotional with scripture. Weekends are much harder. Less structure. Trying to assign myself clean-the-house tasks. We have no kids, but 3 dogs and try to get them out as much as possible. My hats off to ALL PARENTS out there who are responsible for the schedule of others… your job is so difficult – thankless heroes many times! I do fit in the news to stay aware of what’s going on, but limit myself to the associated commentary that seems to go off the rails regularly and create anxiety.

    • Shelley Martinkus

      March 29, 2020  |  01:55 pm

      Hi Jen – I think this is hard for all of us, not just those that have children so I want to give you a TON of credit for what you are doing. I love how you are getting dressed and keeping that routine – even shoes! haha! That might be part of my problem – I don’t even know the last time I did my hair. You are giving me some good ideas here! Thanks for sharing! xo – Shelley

  5. Joy

    March 29, 2020  |  04:35 pm

    Would SO love a photo of the Nerf interruption! But that aside, YESyesYES I am feeling the feels over here. Intense irritation. Toward everyone. Especially He Who Shall Remain Unnamed (but is the reason that sent me to this blog). Fear. A wee tiny bit of the “live-your-best-life” (especially aiming this in the direction of my beloved offspring: “Go. GO. Outside. Live your best life! OUT in the sunshine (or rain). Play with animals. Make things. Just pleeeease go outside and give me peace.”) And I homeschool them, so I should be USED to them being around.

    And suddenly We Who Are Usually Screenless are watching movies out the wazoo. Also bakingbakingbaking. And buying ducks and a calf, because, well, they’re welcome distractions and we are not dog people and also we live on a farm, so ….

    Sigh. You’re right. We will get through this. Doesn’t have to be glamorous. Just survive and take the time to ground ourselves, whatever that looks like.

    Oh, and the naps ……! Sweet escapist bliss ….. 😉

    • Shelley Martinkus

      March 30, 2020  |  08:54 pm

      Ahhhh!!! Thanks for sitting in this with me!!! Your post made me laugh – he that shall remain nameless, yep – I’m following you. And thank goodness the weather has been decent here the last few days so that my boys can go outside and cause destruction out there. Let me know once you know what the grounding looks like – I’m still trying to find it! xo – Shelley

  6. Tiffany Nelson McDaniel

    March 30, 2020  |  08:16 pm

    Want to say a great big Thank You for coming clean with us. We are all struggling through this insanity right now. I too, find myself wanting to slap the Insta “live your best life” people. LOL I think it might be a little conviction, since I have been eating myself through this lock down and as the MEME says “When this is over will the producers of My 600 lbs life just come find me?” I believe that without humor, even a little dark humor, I would not make it through this. It has rubbed directly up against my “Don’t tell me what to do!” 16 year old inner self and she is having the mother of all temper tantrums right now. Hoping to be able to channel that defiance into some working out, cleaning, organizing, studing the Word, etc… But as of now it has only manifested itself as the Cookie Monster… Hang in there ladies – God is bigger than this. If He is for us, who can be against us?

    • Shelley Martinkus

      March 30, 2020  |  08:53 pm

      bahaha! Coming clean – yes!!!! I love reading your comment – you are right, what would we do without or humor?!

      Today was better – I made a goal of making the beds (and then did!) and that seemed to lift my spirits. I think I need to crack my Bible in the morning as I know that will do me wonders. Just haven’t done it in a while…

      xo – Shelley

  7. Carol O’Rear

    April 7, 2020  |  06:14 pm

    Hi Shelley,
    Thanks for your post. Thanks for showing us what you are REALLY going through! I am very grateful that my kids are grown and out of the house. Since my husband and I are both retired, nothing much has changed. However, since I can’t run errands every day, I am keeping myself busy doing things in the home that I don’t normally address. I have so many quilting projects that I didn’t realize I had. I am attempting to work on as many as possible. I also have 2 granddaughters (both age 4) for whom I am sewing dresses and shorts outfits. I had bought numerous patterns and fabric, but put them away “for another time”. Well, NOW is the time! I am almost done sewing them all the patterns I bought. I am also doing some in-depth cleaning of my house. And, I go outside on occasion to work in the flowerbeds, getting them ready to plant. I’ll make it through this unbelievable time with God’s help!!

  8. muchalone

    April 15, 2020  |  02:30 pm

    #7–only for people without kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Every.single.time I even open the closet (oh, wait, I can’t even get the door closed right now) a kid is sure he is on the verge of starvation (never mind that we ate less than an our ago), or one has poopy pants, or there is a duo or trio fighting about who gets to choose the next thing…
    Not eating the tortilla chips…too busy washing my hands, and since the computer mouse keeps getting sticky, it has taken me 2 weeks to find time to even read this…probably only because my most antagonistic kid is on zoom with a school club. How many days has it been since I got up this morning?

    • Shelley Martinkus

      April 15, 2020  |  05:09 pm

      bahahaaaaa! Totally on #7!!! Truth.

      xo – Shelley

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