There is one other thing I would have loved to clarify a bit more two weeks ago.  In fact, I wish that I had stood up and made sure that everyone could have heard me loud and clear.I feel like there are a lot of women out there that are feeling deep amounts of pain due to their husband’s pornography addiction.  But for whatever reason, they don’t feel like their pain is valid.They probably think things like:  “it’s only porn”.  “It isn’t like he has _________ with another woman.”  “This really isn’t that big of a deal.”But the truth is:  it is a HUGE deal.  (And I wish I had raised my hands in the air here.)From talking to other women; whether over coffee, in a support group or after Jason and I have spoken; this is what I can tell you:  Some of the women in the most incredible pain are those where their husbands were “only” addicted (or yoking themselves) to pornography and masterbation.  And the reality is:  we can’t judge other peoples pain. Pain is real.  Pain is unique to the individual.  And pain should always be validated.  We all go through it in one way or another.What about you?  Do you try to minimize your husband’s behavior to yourself?  Do you think it is a way of protecting your heart?  From the truth?  Alternately, does your husband try to minimize his behavior to you?  I just want you to know that however you feel and the depth of those feelings; they are valid.  They are real.