This is part 2 of 2 on expressing anger in a healthy way.  To read the first post, click here.  I mentioned writing an anger letter as an option for releasing anger.  Below are two more strategies that you may find useful.Dish Throwing PartyThis is an exercise that I recently had the wives in the support group that I am facilitating go through. There is a lot of prep in using this method, but the benefits are well worth it.First, purchase some cheap champagne glasses (my personal favorite) although wine glasses or dishes will do. The best place to find these cheap is at the local thrift store.Set up a space in your garage where you can safely throw dishes and glasses. Use thick plastic and duct tape it to the floor and to three sides of your garage. The fourth side is where you will stand (and I always have this side along the garage door). Make sure and wear long sleeve shirts and pants as well as close-toed shoes. In addition, appropriate eye gear is a must. (I learned this the almost hard way when I was standing in support of a gal in one of my groups that was throwing dishes and although I was standing quite far away from her, a piece of glass hit on the bridge of my nose! You really can’t be too careful!)Then, you can take your letter and read it out loud. As you read it, try to feel the anger. And throw the glassware, as needed, onto the floor. You can still do this exercise without writing an anger letter. Simply by talking off the cuff and allowing yourself to rant and rave about what you are angry about.Working Through Anger in the MomentOver the last year, I have experienced several episodes of intense anger directed towards my three little boys. So much so that I knew I needed to seek outside help. Jason and I ended up meeting with a counselor that specializes in parenting. During one of our sessions, I was discussing anger with her and she turned to me and asked me this: “What happens to a two-year old after they throw a tantrum?” And I thought about it for a split-second before responding: “They are calm!” And she said, “Exactly”. And proceeded to share with me that we should learn from toddlers in this way. And it’s true. It seems somewhere between the toddler years and adulthood, we lose our ability to express our anger as we did when we were younger.Through working with her, I have started to find the right language and the right skills in order to “get out” my anger. The same skills you can use, too! For instance, when I start to feel anger rising up inside of me, I take five deep calming breaths. I try to go to a quiet room when I do this and I close my eyes. There are times when this does the trick and I am able to re-center myself and calm down. But sometimes, I can tell that there is more. So, I share with my boys that mommy needs to get her yells out. I then go into my room (with the door preferably shut) and scream as loud as I can. By putting my hands over my mouth, I am able to scream loudly from within but with reduced volume for my children. I then kick the air with my legs or my personal favorite, hit the pillows or mattress on my bed with my hands. The more you get your body into it, the better. Without a doubt, after I do this, I am able to re-center and calm down.I'd love to hear what you have done to release anger in a positive and healthy way.  xo-Shelley