Jason and I were talking this morning.  We agreed that we haven’t felt connected lately.  I offered up a couple of reasons on my end as to why.  Not excuses, but rather talking through what has prevented the connection on my end.  Pregnancy and obsessing over home projects before the baby comes top the list.  Specifically with pregnancy, I notice myself drawing inwards.  Wanting more time alone.  Being more introspective.As Jason shared what may be preventing our connectedness on his end, we realized that it was similar to what I was experiencing.  He was feeling “extroverted-out”, as he calls it.  Needing some alone time to recharge.And this is what we realized:  when we are NOT connected with ourselves, it is really difficult for us to connect with each other.As I continued to mull over this, I thought, well no wonder it can be so challenging to connect with our husbands.  Could it be that in order to connect with our husbands we have to be connected with ourselves?  And the same applies for our husbands?  Thus, it’s a synergistic effect.   No wonder the intentionality and purpose it takes to maintain a heart connection with our spouse. (And I believe this could be applied to other relationships as well, married or not.)So Jason and I ended our not-rocket-science-yet-thought-provoking-convo with what we needed to do individually to get in touch with ourselves this week in order to increase our chances of connecting on a heart level with each other sometime soon.Sure, we’d love to both book a trip to the beach but it won’t happen this week.  So, for me:  it’s intentional time while the littles are napping.  Journaling, praying, reading.  In addition, engaging my to-do list versus allowing it to drag me down.  And for Jason, it’s similar.  Time will tell if we are on the right track!What about you?  Do you notice a disconnect with your husband when you don’t feel connected to yourself?  Or rather, when you are feeling in touch with yourself, is it easier to feel united with your husband?  I’d love to hear your thoughts!