Connection. Validation. Encouragement.
When Jason and I sat down with our pastor whom married us 3 years prior and Jason shared all the details he could remember about his secret life, I remember our pastor looking us in the eyes and telling us that Jason had a Sexual Addiction. WHAT?! I had NEVER heard of such a thing as a sexual addiction and I was a bit offended that he would put a label on my husband’s poor choices and behavior. Almost like wrapping it up and putting a bow on it and giving it back to us: a sexual addiction! I could think of some other words to use besides sexual addiction.
I remember wanting so badly to meet another woman whom had walked the path I was about to head down. But, given I’d never heard of a sexual addiction, I was hard pressed to find someone. It was through our counselor that I was finally set up with another woman going down a similar road. Ah! The relief to know I wasn’t alone!
Support has been a huge part of my recovery. I currently meet bimonthly with a group of women whom share a similar story and it is here that I have felt comfortable working on myself, learning how to be emotionally intimate with others, and pressing into my purpose in this life. What I have experienced in this group, I wish for everyone going down a similar road. Read further for information on joining a support group.
Who are these support groups for?
If you are a woman whom has been betrayed by your husband or significant other due to his sexual integrity issues (lust and fantasizing, pornography, emotional affairs, physical affairs, strip clubs, etc.), this group is for you. Whether you are 3 months in to the process or 6 years into the process, you are welcome!
What should I expect?
The focus will not be on our husbands but rather ourselves. Safe, honest and vulnerable are three words that describe the energy of the group. This will be a place where we will not judge each other but rather embrace that we are all on a different journey with a common goal.
What will we cover?
Initially, everyone in the group will have an opportunity to share their story. Each woman will also set a couple of goals regarding things they want to work towards. Then, each time we meet, we will have an opportunity to share what has happened in our lives over the last couple of weeks. In addition, we will work through curriculum that focuses on some of the core areas for healing: anger, forgiveness, trust building, triggers, insecurity, true intimacy and false intimacy, etc.
When and where?
We will meet every other week. Groups are limited to a total of 5-6 people and will either meet in Denver at Redemptive Living or on the phone via a conference call. I ask for a six month commitment up front. The groups are revolving so you can keep your spot as long as you’d like.
New Group Starting Wednesday, May 22, 2019; every other week, Phone, 8:15-9:45pm, MST, facilitated by Shelley Martinkus – FULL.
New Group Starting Wednesday, May 1, 2019; every other week, Phone, 6:15-7:45pm, MST, facilitated by Shelley Martinkus – FULL.
Thursday, March 7, 2019; every other week, Phone, 9-10:30am, MST; facilitated by Tammy Gustafson – FULL.
Tuesday November 27, 2018, every other week, Phone, 9-10:30am, MST, facilitated by Tammy Gustafson – FULL.
Thursday November 1, 2018, every other week, In-Person in Golden, 11-12:30pm, MST, facilitated by Susan Finnefrock – 3 spots open.
Wednesday October 10th, 2018, every other week, Phone, 6-7:30pm, MST, facilitated by Susan Finnefrock – FULL.
Thursday May 24, 2018, biweekly, Phone, 9-10:30am, MST, facilitated by Tammy Gustafson – FULL.
Thursday February 15th, 2018, biweekly, Phone, 12:30-2pm, MST, facilitated by Susan Finnefrock – FULL.
Tuesday March 6th, 2018, biweekly, Phone, 7-8:30pm, MST, facilitated by Heiti DeLucchi – FULL. (This group is specifically for women separated or divorced.)
Tuesday February 13th, 2018, biweekly, Phone, 5-6:30pm, MST, facilitated by Maggie Cruise – FULL.
Wednesday October 25th, 2017, biweekly, Face to Face in Denver, 6:15-7:45pm, MST, facilitated by Shelley Martinkus – FULL.
Wednesday, biweekly, beginning November 30th, 2016, biweekly, Phone, 8-9:30 pm, MST, facilitated by Shelley Martinkus – FULL.
How much does it cost?
I’m interested in joining a group, what do I do next?
Please contact me and we can discuss which group would be the best fit for you. I can also answer any other questions you have. And if all groups are full, I can put you on a wait list for the next available opening.