Latest Musings

Don’t Stop Fighting

Wednesday, February 28th, 2018

I am begging you, ladies, to not give up. Please, take the next step on your journey no. matter. what. This fight is worth fighting. And it’s strangling far too many women and far too many marriages. We must, together, fight.

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The Dear Me Series – #2

Tuesday, January 30th, 2018

One of the final exercises I instruct the ladies to do as apart of the RLFW support groups is to write a “Dear Me” letter.  Although there is a ton of trepidation to take part in this exercise – time …

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Sharing my pain and looking for empathy – the challenge is real.

Wednesday, January 10th, 2018

Jason has always said that him seeing my pain and experiencing it first hand in the days, weeks, months and years (yes, I said years) after betrayal has been a key motivator to not go back to his old ways.

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The Dear Me Series – #1

Tuesday, December 19th, 2017

You may never fully understand his choices of betrayal. But rest assured that his decisions do not mean you failed as a wife, or as a woman.

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I’ve got work to do – Part 3

Monday, December 4th, 2017

I used to think I could forgive in order to circumvent the grief process but I know differently today – grieving is a big part OF the forgiveness journey.

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I’ve got work to do – Part 2

Tuesday, November 28th, 2017

And then I released each one of them – pen and paper, just me and God.

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I’ve got work to do – Part 1

Tuesday, November 14th, 2017

And then I realized, the one and only way to move forward through the pain was to lay it all at the foot of the cross and ask Jesus to do a miracle in my heart and release me from the hurt and the pain that Jason caused.

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The Truth About Sexual Intimacy

Monday, October 30th, 2017

The type of sex we were engaging in wasn’t the love Jesus intended for us. Sex, for us, was a physical act of confusion. We’ve sought to take out the confusion and put sex in its rightful place.

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Starting and Ending our Days Well

Wednesday, October 4th, 2017

If you have no idea what you are looking at, let me tell you – you are looking at my 4 week NEW laptop in a Pyrex dish of rice. (Don’t mind me, I’m just going to rock back and forth in the fetal position a little while longer.)

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Saying “no” so that we can say “yes”

Monday, September 11th, 2017

Honestly, I consider this to be essential when it comes to self-care which is something I harp on a LOT in my groups.

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